F*ck Valentines… Joking (or am i ?) .
Love is looming in the air this valentines. The only time of year that the men are trash comity become suspiciously quiet and the sidetings feel a sense of entitlement. In our generation it has become a competition on who’s getting laid, who got the best gift, cutest outfits, baecations and who the side chicks and the cheats are.
We are all aware that times have changed and with and that nowadays most individuals don’t date. Well, sort of, but to be honest not really.
Dating sights, Social media and the ability to instant or live message allows people to connect and keep a regular update with each other’s lives. The lightning speed, constant activity and the ability to portray yourself as you please allows walls to be broken down easier and this can give a false impression of actually knowing someone, because of social media we don’t have to face eye contact or the necessity to respond immediately. If we want. Our response can wait, that’s until we can come up with the ‘perfect’ answer.
Please let me know how on earth Netflix and chill become a world known trend. Is it even acceptable as a date? Chinese, Netflix, sex and knowingly in that order. Or is it just a common option because our generation is broke and dating can be expensive.Can we blame social media and the easily broken wall for the three date rule (sex on the third date) or even dating someone without the need to engage in sex or anything sexual at all.
Does our generation feel as though they must engage in sex within a short period of time to hold on to a person because we are not quite sure of the status?
For those that are in situation-ships, have a friend with benefit or maybe the bit on the side, Valentine’s Day maybe that sneaky opportunity for you to confirm your position (thats if you care lol).
Loads of people low-key want to feel loved and appreciated on valentines and thats both male and females but I think that we forget that the day is about love as a concept and not your current status.
Now, This is meant to be a valentines post and as a singleton with eggs, I approach this subject with caution just in case I rattle someones bones. I must admit, I am personally feeling somewhat bitter this valentines and I will say it with my chest lol. This post is specifically for the ladies, so that you all acknowledge that you aren’t going through this alone. But men feel free to take notes because honestly, we are tired of your shit.
I have never openly spoke about my sex life or my concerns in regards to this generations warped deception of right and wrong.
Amongst my peers, I’m very open about my sex life, lol it does make me feel somewhat liberated. I admire Oloni and her freeness to express her opinion on areas others dare not. But the truth is many of us male or female have probably been through very similar situations that if we felt we were able to open up about them it wouldn’t feel so alien. I do feel somewhat more experimental and open compared to my girls.
I do feel slightly obligated to dilute this post due to obvious reasons, however I will be as transparent as possible. My issue isn’t the single life and neither do I feel comfortable with the idea of Uncle Bob knowing the ins and outs of my sex life.
What I will say is, I myself feel as though a may have to invest in a little friend because in many areas more than one lol I am just errr whats the word… UNSATISFIED and I am not the only one. From conversations with my girls and word on the group chats is that you guys lol just aint cutting it. Bombarded with conversations of Viagra needing penises, unsatisfying penises, small penises, just tryna buss a nut penises and dont know what im doing penises; 2019 maybe the year of the vibrator.
Ok ok so I may sound a little bitter, but in no way is your girl short of a valentine. It is a cute little holiday lol.
The single people normally have two attitudes towards Valentine’s Day and that is either “what’s all the hype about” or “Valentines, what’s that?.”
Loads of people undercover don’t want to be a lonely on valentines but I think that we forget that the day is about love as a concept and not your current status. And secretly loads of people are just undercover hating (but it’s ok your time will come boo boo).
So how do you survive Valentine’s Day?
If your single please make sure you avoid these 3 crucial things:
1. Avoid social media (Its bound to be valentines central).
2. Avoid braggers
3. Avoid couples
And actively on the day you can:
1. Treat yourself
2. Spend it with family or friends
Remember you aren’t alone. Valentine’s Day is only made for money.
And if your are in a relationship.
Go back to Baesics. Don’t feel pressured to prove your love for your partner to the world and don’t feel as though you have to compete with anyone. I’m sure they’ll appreciate your effort.
Good luck and Lots of love,